A new relationship is all sorts of exciting and at the same time tricky. If we are careful and see through things from very beginning ( instead of having our head in clouds, respond to all signs that are there ) and be careful while enjoying the new development in our life. We can save ourself from future heartache, potential bad experiences and recognize if there can be a beautiful relationship in making.
It’s also important to make sure your time is properly divided between all things. Relationship gurus believe in what is known as the 50/30/20 rule, i.e., 50% of your time can be spent with your new catch, 30 % should be spent hanging out with your friends/family, and you need to have at least 20 % of your time devoted solely to yourself.
When things are new always tread carefully NEVER EVER move too fast or let the other person rush through initial stages of a relationship. There are numerous ways to be careful with a new relationship ( after all we are going to handle our heart to someone out there), here we have pointed certain ways to make things easier and less overwhelming for you.
Flattery is first and foremost tool used by wrong people to sway you off your feet to distract you from reality. Never ever give into praises, exaggerations ( always check out if what they are showing off is actually true or if someones telling you false things about you that are not true ). World is full of liars on a look out for their next adventure.
Admit Their mistakes – Take Responsibility For Their Actions
One of the most important traits of trustworthy people is that they always act responsible for their actions. They will admit if they’ve done something wrong in complete. No excuses here. And point out in healthy manner if you did something wrong too, any behavior deviating from rational should be taken with doubt for underlying problems. As to why a person is not taking up responsibility for what they did. They don’t know what they are doing, or don’t think through things responsibly before acting or anything else. It’s your duty to find out correct and complete truth.
You’ll be surprised by how revealing questions can be. When you ask questions be casual as if you won’t judge them, observe their behavior and gestures. Even if the person is lying, keep talking and questioning at some point they will get confused or uncomfortable with the lies. And check the facts they have stated in your questions are true or not. If you spot a liar just stay away from such person and never ever give into excuses of such people.
Listen How They Talk About Others And Their Behavior Towards Other People
Its rightly said “Listen carefully to how a person speaks about other people to you. This is how they will speak about you to other people.” A lot of their thinking and personality will open up when they will open their mouth about other people. Ask them about their friends, exes, family, workplace competition and see what lies ahead.
Don’t Assume Anything By Your Own Thinking and Don’t Let Anything Slip Past
A lot of times red flags are right in front of us all the time but we never pay attention, or don’t want to. It’s only when the damage is done we see them in hindsight. Whenever something happens that is not understood make sure you find out what that actually was and not go by what you thought it must be. We all want our relationships to be perfect and beautiful, that will all happen but only once we are with the right person and not just imagining in our heads. First we need to do hard work for knowing new person from all sorts, then dreams will follow.
Sneak Out / Absent out of the blue
There is no way a person has to stay out of touch for an entire day ( even if he’s Donald Trump ) or no. of days. If that happens, don’t believe right away what they’re saying. Find out the truth, there may be serious and bigger problems underlying then we can imagine.
How Everyday Commitments Are Handled
How a person prioritize their lives on daily basis, tells a lot about their core values, likes and dislikes. Important aspects of personality will be revealed by how everyday matters are handled. See if they are too much into their work that they neglect important people and situations or they don’t care about work at all. A healthy balance for all aspects of life is all we are looking for.
Other Relationships In His Life
What goes on for other people will go for you too and that too with more intensity. So look out, how this new person is conducting his old and newly formed relationships. Any problems there could be a red flag for you too. Just remember once you’re in with that person those problems will get to you too. So watch out carefully and respond accordingly.
How You’re Feeling In Their Company
This is the most important of all. See what your authentic feelings are for whats happening around and when you’re with this new person. If you’re heart is happy all the time and you’re not feeling uncomfortable being complete yourself, then that could be your potential mate.
If you notice that the person you’ve just started dating exhibits several of these signs, don’t waste your time trying to convert or change them. Just accept that they are not a fit for you. This will take discipline from your end, but it will save you from great emotional disappointments or even pain in future. Free yourself to meet someone for a healthier relationship that has a future. The choice is yours.