Archives for January 2018
Healthy relationships is what we all strive for. But always remember it takes 2 not 1 healthy individuals to create a healthy and fulfilling relationship. If you and your partner don’t subscribe to what other people think you should be doing, then you’re probably doing something right! Unfortunately many of us are exposed to so many unhealthy relationships in our lives that sometimes we don’t even know what healthy relationship even looks and feels like. These days, it’s very easy to get carried away in the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” of relationships. Remember those are all just someone else’s rules. Happy couples make their own rules and don’t let other people’s ideas of a relationship define their own. There are signs that are hallmarks of a good healthy relationship, have a look at some of them listed out below.
You Speak Your Mind
If you are not afraid of expressing your thoughts and feelings then you’re in a good relationship space. Relationships thrive when couples can express themselves freely and honestly. This means no topic is ever off-limits, and both partners feel heard. Great communication is vital to building a lasting life together.
You Fight Healthy
Disagreements are very much a part of our lives. So if you aren’t fighting, chances are you’re holding back. But when people in healthy relationships fight, they fight productively and fairly. Avoiding name-calling or put-downs ans striving to understand your partner instead of trying to score points. And when you’re wrong? You apologize truly and won’t repeat your mistakes in the future.
You Like Your Partner
It makes sense to be with who you really like and not necessarily who you are with ( they better be same person ). Never base your partnership on the hope that it will change over time or with things. You accept that neither of you is perfect, and you value each other for who you are right now — not who you might become.
You Make Joint Decisions
You or they don’t call all the shots. From what car to buy, movie to see, how many children to have, you make all decisions together and listen to each other’s concerns and desires. Sure, this may mean you compromise on Saturday night. But on Sunday night, it’s their turn.
You Find Balance
Sometimes your partner needs to work longer hours while you play chauffeur and chief cook. Or you must devote time to an elderly parent while your spouse tackles the chores. That’s life. What matters is that, in the long run, your trade-offs seem fair.
You Treat Each Other With Kindness
Nothing is more important than treating the person you love with care, consideration, empathy, and appreciation. If you find yourself showing more respect to people you hardly know than you show to your partner, take a step back and revisit your priorities.
You Let Things Go
Your partner will annoy you and you will too. You will say things that you don’t mean. You will behave inconsiderately so many times. The important thing is how both partners deal with all this. So he did something annoying? Tell him you’re disappointed, of course—then let it go.
You Are Intimate
Bonding, friendship, and familiarity. If you’re in a healthy relationship, you’ll feel connected—in and out of bed. Period.
Your Relationship Is Your Safe Place
Your relationship should ideally be a safety place to come home to. That doesn’t mean you don’t fight—it just means that when things are hard, you’d rather see your partner than anything else.
You Talk To Your Partner, Not To Other People
Have issues and concerns? first person you share them with is your partner, not your Facebook friends. You can use pals as a sounding board but not as a crutch to avoid hard conversations with your partner.
You both are responsible for your own feelings, actions and words. You avoid putting blame on each other and own up to your actions and feelings.
You Show Each Other Your Flaws
To be vulnerable enough to open up about your flaws is the hallmark of a wonderful relationship. Revealing your flaws means you feel comfortable enough to be you and share that with your partner. Both of you know that you love and accept each other exactly as you are.